Earlier this year, I had the extraordinary opportunity to attend the Women in da Vinci Surgery Symposium 2024, hosted by Intuitive in Atlanta, USA. What began six years ago as a small gathering of just six female surgeons has now evolved into a global celebration of surgical excellence and leadership — with more than 200 women in attendance from over a dozen countries, including the UK.

I was proud to represent both the UK and the field of robotic gynaecology, surrounded by some of the most passionate, skilled, and visionary women in surgery today. This wasn’t just another conference. It was two days of genuine connection, reflection, and powerful conversation — centred around our shared commitment to improving surgical care and lifting each other up.

From the very first session, one message rang clear: you don’t have to lead like anyone else. You lead by embracing your story, your strengths, and your community.

Saying “Yes,” Saying “No” — and Owning Both

One of the most impactful sessions came from leadership expert Susan MacKenty Brady, who reminded us of the strength it takes to set clear boundaries — and stick to them. As surgeons, we’re trained to say yes, to push through, to keep showing up. But sometimes, saying no is the boldest act of self-preservation and the most powerful step toward longevity in our careers.

She was joined on stage by Dr Seung Gwon, who bravely shared how setting boundaries — with Susan’s mentorship — helped her rediscover balance, health, and joy in her work. Today, she’s her hospital’s Chief Medical Officer. Stories like hers are a reminder that resilience doesn’t mean pushing through pain — it means learning when to pause, reset, and protect your energy.

The Power of Community

Another key theme from the weekend was the importance of building and nurturing a strong professional tribe. “Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back,” said one speaker — and I couldn’t agree more.

In surgery, we often operate in high-pressure environments where performance is scrutinised. Having a support network that understands your challenges and champions your wins isn’t just a ‘nice to have’ — it’s a professional lifeline. We shared stories of mentorship, collaboration, and overcoming institutional barriers — all rooted in the idea that we are stronger when we move together.

Own Your Story and Show Up Authentically

We also talked about visibility — how women in surgery can be overlooked, especially in male-dominated systems. Several speakers encouraged us to brand ourselves. Not in the superficial sense, but in the real, grounded way that tells the world: this is who I am, this is what I do, and this is why it matters.

Dr Rahilla Essani said it best: “Be a stiletto in a room full of flats.” That quote earned a knowing laugh across the room. We talked about the power of showing up unapologetically, of leveraging our emotional intelligence, our communication strengths, and our compassion — qualities that make women exceptional surgeons and leaders.

Turning Challenges Into Progress

The stories shared weren’t always easy to hear — some were shocking. Being passed over for roles, belittled by peers, or underestimated because of gender is unfortunately still common. But what stood out was how these women responded: not with rage, but with resolve.

“Trust your gut. Keep perspective. Invest in yourself.” That was the theme of the final panel, and it’s stayed with me ever since. Because despite these challenges, every woman on stage had turned pain into purpose — and was now sending the elevator back down to help others rise.

Why This Matters at Home

Back in London, these lessons come with me into every theatre, consultation, and teaching session. Whether I’m mentoring trainees, operating on complex endometriosis, or seeing patients privately at Happiher, I bring with me the values I saw reflected in Atlanta:

• Advocate for yourself

• Celebrate others

• Operate with skill and heart

• Lift as you climb

Events like Women in da Vinci Surgery aren’t just about showcasing surgical achievement — they’re about changing the story. They’re about proving that the future of robotic surgery is diverse, compassionate, collaborative — and female.

And if you’re a medical student, a junior doctor, or a woman wondering if there’s space for you in this field: there is. And we’re saving you a seat.

With gratitude

Dr Manou Manpreet Kaur